Cut off your nose.....

so.. I really don't get people. I know that through our lives, we get disappointed, people do things that we don't want them to or expect them to do. But why not take those things and turn them into a positive? Why not just wait and see how things turn out instead of trying to manipulate things. We have a situation now that is making me very upset. Our dear friend who has the most generous heart is being penalized for a decision that she and I made. I feel so bad or her but if I step in ( which I really want to do) I could then jeopardize myself. So the counsel is for me to stay quiet and out of it. I really feel bad for my friend and want to make it right, but I dont think I can. Why cant people just act like grownups. I guess some people are just so self absorbed that they cant see beyond their own being. too bad or them.